This past week, Zander has been mouthy, uncooperative, and exhibited behavior that is completely unacceptable. Brad got a small (huge) dose of it this weekend, and was telling me last night he thinks Zander acts the way he does because I have such a bad attitude. (That didn't quite give me butterflies, more like a flush face. Good thing it was dark). I know I need to work on my mouth, but I didn't ask HIM. I would rather it be my idea. So I began to (kind of) pray about it, and what I would have loved to hear was, "I love you just the way you are. No need to change. Brad is just too touchy. And Zander most definitely has not received his poor attitude from you." --Annnd, I'm still waiting on that conversation to happen.
I had my Bible open to Proverbs, writing in Zander's Mommy-to-Son journal (because I do-not scrapbook anymore)
"if you love your children, you will be prompt to discipline them."
(Like by telling him this his response will be, "Oh! I get it. Well, mom, I lied about cleaning the toy room. Since you love me, you should probably spank me.")
Anyway, I felt prompted to read. But read what; close my eyes and point? So, I thought, well, I'll just read my parenting book, not that it will have anything for ME, but at least I'm reading something.
And behold, the chapter I opened to, "Destroying an Inheritance of Family Bondage". Hum.. how bout that.
- Sometimes we accept certain tendencies toward sin in ourselves and we don't have to.
- When we see things we don't like about ourselves reflected in our children, we can pray for them to be set free of that tendency as well.
- A good way to see a negative trait broken in your child is to see it broken in you first.
Really? Thanks. Just what I needed. And I don't have a good attitude about it. Maybe that's the whole problem. So to sum this whole shenanigan up, if you don't want to know, don't ask. Because He's itchin' for a fixin', my friends.